12/18/2011
Christmas On-line
Every year I promise myself to try to avoid the Christmas shopping on the last minute. I absolutely hate the traffics everywhere, no parking space at shopping malls and millions of people everywhere. Not only that but they push each other, they scream at each other, they drive like crazy, ...oh no, not this year. This year I decided to be smart. I started on Black Friday. I did my search at the stores I wanted to shop at. I checked their list of items on sale on Black Friday and I was lucky enough to find pretty much everything I wanted to get. Than I have realized that most of these items are on sale on line as well, which was even better. I didn't have to get up early in the morning, or leave home after Thanksgiving dinner. That gave me an idea to compare the prices with Amazon.com. At Amazon.com I was able to get everything much cheaper than anywhere else. And as a bonus there was no shipping fee and I didn't have to pay the tax neither. I got all the toys for my son, nice pearls and handbag for my mom and nice box for my dad'd cigars. I even got a little something for myself ( since I was already saving money for not paying the shipping and tax). No stress and I am done and I still got my Christmas Spirit. Don't let the shopping fever to spoil your Christmas. Happy Holidays to everyone!
12/07/2011
Another Court Day
I have been divorced since last August (2010). Beginning of this year I have found out that someone in the court forgot to record our divorce in cook county. My ex -husband wanted to take advantage of it and decided to file another motion to re open our divorce and try to have it all changed. He thought he could get some money out of me. So not only he was not paying child support, he was also supposed to pay some money to me, but now he decided that he will try to turn it around so he could get some money instead. My attorney had to go to the court and explain to the judge, that we are divorced already but someone just forgot to record it. Luckily the judge saw the original order for our divorce and we won. Unfortunately it was still another pay day for my attorney and my expense.
And that is the problem. Anytime my ex-husband files another motion against me, my attorney has to go there and that costs me money. Once I have an order, I think that it is over. But is it?
My ex-husband filed same motions over and over. No one cares there are orders for these motions already. I just have to keep coming. There is always new judge who has no idea that my ex- husband is just taking advantage of the system and that this is his way of harassing me. All I can do is to just come to the court and try to explain to each and new judge what is going on. Problem is, that I might not keep winning. And even when I win, no one will order my ex-husband to pay for the costs. Maybe if they would he'd stop harassing me. How am I supposed to stop this? Why do I need to keep coming to hearings for something that was already resolved and I have an order for?
For example my ex-husband had a business. Ha had a construction company for over 15 years. After he had some problems with the insurance he decided to open new business and make me the president of the company. It was only on the papers as he was the only person who was handling anything with he business. I was working full time as administrative assistant in some corporate office somewhere else. Within a year since he opened the new company I filed for divorce. I thought I would let him to have the business so he can still generate the income. It was father of my son and I didn't want any problems I just wanted the divorce. Until I found out that he left the bank account of the business in negative. All the expenses were on my name and he continued to generate the income but left all the expenses to me. I was forced to close the bank account and close the business at the same time. I didn't want any debts on my name.
He opened another business on his sister's name, pretending he works for only $300 a week gross so he wouldn't have to pay child support. Later he filed a law suit against me claiming I owe him over $14,000 in wages. He was the only person who ever cashed any money from the business and had absolutely nothing to prove I owed him anything. He lost the case with the department of labor and lost the law suit in cook county civil court as well. It was also discussed during our divorce and he lost again. Now over a year after our divorce he filed another law suit for the same reason. Why do I need to keep coming since I have already won 3 times? What kind of system is this? Why do I have orders in my favor since they are absolutely meaningless and he can keep harass me over this again and again? When is it going to stop? Why do I have to pay for all of that? All I wanted was divorce from an alcoholic and crazy man who became very dangerous to me and my son. I want to live normally and provide normal life for my son but how can I , since I have to keep coming to the court and pay huge sums to the attorney for something I shouldn't have since there are orders for these things already.
And yet, we have another court day next week, new judge, who has no idea, what is going on, and I and my attorney will have to go though this battle all over again and it will cost me more money again. What a wonderful life in U.S. for single mom. If someone will tell you that women can win anything during a divorce, especially if they have children, do not listen to them. They have no idea what they are talking about. There is nothing to protect women, nor children. There is no way the women can win the battle if the guy is nuts and is taking advantage of the system. Definitely nothing will protect the women and the children from abusive ex-husbands and the women will have to suffer and pay huge amount of money just to survive, but never will they win. And that is the whole purpose of it. The crazy ex- husband doesn't even care if he wins. All he cares about is to force you to come to the court again. The purpose is not to win, but to make you suffer, to drain you financially and emotionally. That is huge satisfaction to him because you left him. That is all he cares about right now. He doesn't care that the money you are spending on the court could be spent for yours and his child, that instead of paying huge bills you could buy your child the stuff he or she needs. He doesn't care. All he cares about is revenge. And the revenge is very sweet seeing you every time in the court knowing you can hardly afford it. But he can. He is the one who own a business and makes money, so he is covered. He knows this is hard for you and is happy to see you like that. Oh, yeah, that is his satisfaction. And you just have another court day to attend.
And that is the problem. Anytime my ex-husband files another motion against me, my attorney has to go there and that costs me money. Once I have an order, I think that it is over. But is it?
My ex-husband filed same motions over and over. No one cares there are orders for these motions already. I just have to keep coming. There is always new judge who has no idea that my ex- husband is just taking advantage of the system and that this is his way of harassing me. All I can do is to just come to the court and try to explain to each and new judge what is going on. Problem is, that I might not keep winning. And even when I win, no one will order my ex-husband to pay for the costs. Maybe if they would he'd stop harassing me. How am I supposed to stop this? Why do I need to keep coming to hearings for something that was already resolved and I have an order for?
For example my ex-husband had a business. Ha had a construction company for over 15 years. After he had some problems with the insurance he decided to open new business and make me the president of the company. It was only on the papers as he was the only person who was handling anything with he business. I was working full time as administrative assistant in some corporate office somewhere else. Within a year since he opened the new company I filed for divorce. I thought I would let him to have the business so he can still generate the income. It was father of my son and I didn't want any problems I just wanted the divorce. Until I found out that he left the bank account of the business in negative. All the expenses were on my name and he continued to generate the income but left all the expenses to me. I was forced to close the bank account and close the business at the same time. I didn't want any debts on my name.
He opened another business on his sister's name, pretending he works for only $300 a week gross so he wouldn't have to pay child support. Later he filed a law suit against me claiming I owe him over $14,000 in wages. He was the only person who ever cashed any money from the business and had absolutely nothing to prove I owed him anything. He lost the case with the department of labor and lost the law suit in cook county civil court as well. It was also discussed during our divorce and he lost again. Now over a year after our divorce he filed another law suit for the same reason. Why do I need to keep coming since I have already won 3 times? What kind of system is this? Why do I have orders in my favor since they are absolutely meaningless and he can keep harass me over this again and again? When is it going to stop? Why do I have to pay for all of that? All I wanted was divorce from an alcoholic and crazy man who became very dangerous to me and my son. I want to live normally and provide normal life for my son but how can I , since I have to keep coming to the court and pay huge sums to the attorney for something I shouldn't have since there are orders for these things already.
And yet, we have another court day next week, new judge, who has no idea, what is going on, and I and my attorney will have to go though this battle all over again and it will cost me more money again. What a wonderful life in U.S. for single mom. If someone will tell you that women can win anything during a divorce, especially if they have children, do not listen to them. They have no idea what they are talking about. There is nothing to protect women, nor children. There is no way the women can win the battle if the guy is nuts and is taking advantage of the system. Definitely nothing will protect the women and the children from abusive ex-husbands and the women will have to suffer and pay huge amount of money just to survive, but never will they win. And that is the whole purpose of it. The crazy ex- husband doesn't even care if he wins. All he cares about is to force you to come to the court again. The purpose is not to win, but to make you suffer, to drain you financially and emotionally. That is huge satisfaction to him because you left him. That is all he cares about right now. He doesn't care that the money you are spending on the court could be spent for yours and his child, that instead of paying huge bills you could buy your child the stuff he or she needs. He doesn't care. All he cares about is revenge. And the revenge is very sweet seeing you every time in the court knowing you can hardly afford it. But he can. He is the one who own a business and makes money, so he is covered. He knows this is hard for you and is happy to see you like that. Oh, yeah, that is his satisfaction. And you just have another court day to attend.
10/28/2011
Gluten Free Halloween Treats
Next step..Halloween treats. I knew there are always some goodies, snacks and treats at the party, but my son usually can't eat any of that. So whenever we go we have to bring our food and treats. So I wanted to make some cupcakes inspired by Halloween. These were my first ones by they did turn out well. However, they raised in the oven little bit more then I expected. So my solution was to cut off the top of the cupcakes and decorate them with gluten free icing and gluten free sprinkles as I planned anyway. They turned out great. Beautiful Halloween colors. And they tasted yummy. I made more so we could also share with others at the school's party. My son helped decorate them and we had fun.
As for the cupcakes here is what I used:
1-1/2 Pamela's Gluten free Pancake Mix
2 large eggs ( I used gluten free egg replacer from EnerG)
3/4 cup milk ( I used almond milk. I didn't have regular so I used vanilla just use less sugar)
1 Tbsp oil
powder sugar.
I have to admit I didn't measure the amount of sugar. Just add as much or as little as you need so the batter is sweet enough for your taste. When it is too thick add some milk again.
Don't forget to grease muffin or cupcake pan and sprinkle a little bit of flour on the butter so it won't stick. Preheat oven on 350F and bake about 20-25 min or until the tooth pick comes out clean.
I started to do this recipe for waffles, only the original recipe is with water instead of milk and no sugar. I like it more sweet and then we go easy on syrup on our waffles. When I saw how the batter comes out so nicely from a waffle iron I decided to give it a try and bake them as cupcakes instead. And I am glad I did. It was great idea! They tasted really yummy. You can decorate them as you wish. Enjoy!
8/16/2011
Gluten Free -Life Upside Down
I have decided to start a blog. I wanted to start something where I can vent out my feelings, my frustration from the everyday life and maybe even help someone with similar problems. I decided to call it "So Called American Dream". I came to US as an aupair from Czech Republic when I was 19 years old. It was my dream. I decided to stay, I found a great job in mortgage business. Later I got married and lived my American Dream. It didn't last long and soon I had become a victim of domestic violence. I have an Order of Protection against my now ex-husband, who promised to ruin me and my family financially ( so far he has been doing great job at that) and I have no way of protecting myself and my son, because of the american law. So now it is the "So Called American Dream" we are living.
Now I am a single mother of a gluten free child who will be 6 years old this year.. My exhusband told me that if he had known our son was going to be "sick"(as he calls him), he rather wouldn't have a child with me. I have to admit this was a shock as I do not consider my son "sick".(on the other hand he had done worse than just called our son sick, but you can read about that later in my blog) I concider my son as healthy as can be, he is no different from any other child. Yes, he has to be carefull as to what he eats and it was a long way for me to get there where we are now. It took me years of sleepless nights, and no help from my ex-husband at that time but I do not consider my son "SICK".
Actually, my son's allergist told me that we were lucky we had found out about the gluten allergies so early( he was less then 2 years old) that he will be very healthy by staying on this diet since his early age. Everyday I am learning something more about gluten free diet and find out that more and more people are trying to eat Gluten free even when they do not have celliac disease or sensitivity to gluten.
I would like to write about anything that is going on in my life, my everyday problems, my family, my friends, about anyone I might consider interesting enough to write about. I believe I have a lot to say and mostly anyone can find something interesting on my posts. If I find a doctor that I am satisfied with I will blog about him, if I have good lawyer I will definitely blog about him and if there is someone I need to complain about I will do so. I would like to separate my blog into 2 parts. One part is about the gluten free diet, recepies, our baking and cooking experiences with my son, doctors, allergist, dermatologist and anything that involves the care. The other part is my personal life as single mother, our everyday life with my son, what we do, some recommendations for free stuff to do with kids, but also the trouble we are going through, the hard time we are having with american law. I would welcome if you can post your comments, share your own experinces, or maybe just share your advise.
Now I am a single mother of a gluten free child who will be 6 years old this year.. My exhusband told me that if he had known our son was going to be "sick"(as he calls him), he rather wouldn't have a child with me. I have to admit this was a shock as I do not consider my son "sick".(on the other hand he had done worse than just called our son sick, but you can read about that later in my blog) I concider my son as healthy as can be, he is no different from any other child. Yes, he has to be carefull as to what he eats and it was a long way for me to get there where we are now. It took me years of sleepless nights, and no help from my ex-husband at that time but I do not consider my son "SICK".
Actually, my son's allergist told me that we were lucky we had found out about the gluten allergies so early( he was less then 2 years old) that he will be very healthy by staying on this diet since his early age. Everyday I am learning something more about gluten free diet and find out that more and more people are trying to eat Gluten free even when they do not have celliac disease or sensitivity to gluten.
I would like to write about anything that is going on in my life, my everyday problems, my family, my friends, about anyone I might consider interesting enough to write about. I believe I have a lot to say and mostly anyone can find something interesting on my posts. If I find a doctor that I am satisfied with I will blog about him, if I have good lawyer I will definitely blog about him and if there is someone I need to complain about I will do so. I would like to separate my blog into 2 parts. One part is about the gluten free diet, recepies, our baking and cooking experiences with my son, doctors, allergist, dermatologist and anything that involves the care. The other part is my personal life as single mother, our everyday life with my son, what we do, some recommendations for free stuff to do with kids, but also the trouble we are going through, the hard time we are having with american law. I would welcome if you can post your comments, share your own experinces, or maybe just share your advise.
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